I’m not a talker.
It may seem strange as I can talk for england on here, but in person, nah, forget it.
So counselling? Well that’s never going to work for me!
However, the counsellor was lovely and took the lead (she does this every day after all!) She explained the legalities of donor sperm, that the child can find their dad at 18 but the dad can’t find them etc. I already knew all this, but she told us about a couple of donor sperm kids she had met at a conference. Both were 27, but one had been told about his situation young and it hadn’t affected him, he had no desire to find out more about his ‘father’ but the other had only been told recently and had felt betrayed and lost her entire sense of self. Now I had always planned on being open with any future children, but this anecdote really cemented to me how much this, if handled wrongly, could affect them, but if handled right, would just be one of those things to the child.

She did pick up on my lack of chattiness and commented that people normally have a lot more questions – I guess the fact that I did my research before going negated that part!

She was amazed that at 26 I had my own house and was managing to work and pay the bills and raise my son alone, and she could see no problems in adding another child in the mix, afterall, I’ve done it before and know what I’m letting myself in for!

So I had my blood tests, to test my CMV status and blood type in order to find me a donor!
So now I’m just waiting on a phonecall!