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Tablets

Who knew you needed contraception when trying for a baby! How very ironic!

The nurses still hadn’t contacted me and as my next period was due soon I decided to chase it up. Pretty sure I had been forgotten, but once they had checked my notes I was told to collect my tablets from reception, no appointment needed, so I had them ready for my next cycle. As my next cycle was due to start any day I rushed down there the next day to collect them. I was told to call on day one…

I got home and looked at what I had bought, and, as I was bored, read the leaflets. Mainly to find out what I had been given, Microgynon and Northisterone. Both leaflets flagged concerns for me. The Microgynon said ‘do not take if you have antiphospholipi syndrome’ which I do! and the Northisterone said do not take if you have any clotting disorders, which antiphospholipid syndrome is! So I called the clinic and was told they would talk to the doctor and let me know! It may be necessary to go ahead without these tablets and go into the cycle naturally.

So now I’m awaiting a phonecall to let me know what pills to take (which ones won’t kill me anyway!)

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 3rd April 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IVF, IVF Cycle 1, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 3rd April 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/04/03/tablets/

Happy Single

It’s taken a long time and a lot of fails to come to this realisation, but maybe it’s something I always knew deep down – I’m happy single. Better off single.

I’ve always liked my own company, never one to seek out others. Relationships make me uncomfortable, yeah cuddles on the sofa are lovely, but having them about 24/7? Telling them everything? Compromise? Maybe I’ve just been single for too long and am too set in my ways, but whatever the reason I’m happy with the outcome.

This is not all to say that if Mr Right walked headfirst into me that I’d send him away again, but I’m not looking, definitely not settling and I shall live my life to the fullest and if I never meet someone I shall die knowing I enjoyed my life and made the right choice.

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Sunday 18th March 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Dating, Parenting, Single Parenting

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Sunday 18th March 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/03/18/happy-single/

IVF Consultation

I didn’t know what to expect from this appointment.
I was told when I booked it that it was just to discuss why IUI failed.
We don’t know, isn’t that the point?
Would they tell me I had to try IUI again?
Maybe I’m not a candiate for IVF.
Maybe there’s a massive wait?
However the consultant was lovely and gave me options.
Would I like to try IUI again?
When I said no she smiled and told me it was good to give it a go but it only had a 5-10% chance of success ‘that just nature’ she said. The probability of success decreased dramatically since I started treatment then! I was promised 20% chance!
When I said I wanted to try IVF she gave me a presentation about what it involved and put together a plan.
A PLAN!
I expected nothing from this appointment and I now have a plan for my IVF treatment!
So the plan is some kind of tablets for 2 months, I missed what these were for, followed by a short course treatment, as I have polycystic ovaries, (not the syndrome apparently just lots of follicles and she doesn’t want to cause Ovarian hyper stimulation syndrome by going for the hard drugs) of 100iu of Gonal-F to mature the follicles and then trigger the same as IUI with Ovitrelle. In for egg collection and go from there. As soon as I start the Gonal-F I will also have to take fragmin injections to stop my blood clotting which is apparently a side effect of Gonal-F made worse by my antiphospholipid syndrome. Great.
Total cost she reckons somewhere £6-7k. Ouch. But having spent £4652.05 so far on the ‘cheap’ option of IUI it’s got to be worth a shot.

I am now just waiting on the nurses to call me to arrange my tablets (and so I can find out what they are!) and I’m guesstimating if I get these tablets soon that I start Gonal-F in June/July-ish time! March/April baby?

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 6th March 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IVF, IVF Cycle 1, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 6th March 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/03/06/ivf-consultation/

Done With IUI

I rang the clinic yesterday to report no pregnancy and was told they would call me back.
Today the nurse called.
I told her I was done with IUI.
I could tell it threw her.
She’s new and probably had her script prepared about how I needed a HyCoSy before continuing.
But I don’t want to continue.
IUI seems random.
Too many chances for it to not happen.
The egg might not mature, might not release, might release too early, too late, then just might not meet the sperm swimming to meet it.
I was told when I started treatment it had a 20% chance, that that was just ‘nature’
Well, when I am spending this much money on it I don’t like nature getting involved.
I gave it a go.
If it had worked it would have been great.
It hasn’t worked for me, that’s not to say it won’t for you.
But I have decided to cut my losses at 2 goes and to splash out my third try on IVF.

I have a consultant appointment on 6th March to discuss next steps.

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 6th February 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Tuesday 6th February 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/02/06/done-with-iui/

Tests

Thursday 25th: Negative I definitely expected a false positive this early!

Friday 26th: I’m so angry today! Down to drugs? Hormones? Stress? Dare I even dream, pregnancy?

Saturday 27th: Negative – though that means NOTHING as it is still far too early for cheap tests to be able to pick up. Why am I testing?!

Monday 29th: Negative

Tuesday 30th: Had a headache and felt awful at work today, light headed and queasy. Pregnancy? Dare I hope?

Wednesday 31st: Negative. Even took a proper (not cheap poundland test) test because I was so SURE… but no.

Friday 2nd: Negative and Aunt Flo. No October baby.

 

I hate IUI.

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 2nd February 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 2nd February 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/02/02/tests-2/

Memories

I’m often coming up with things to keep and save to show to Jackson when he’s a bit older and when I mention them to people they tend to go ‘oh I hadn’t even thought of that’ so I thought I’d compile a list:

  • My pregnancy test! I just couldn’t bring myself to throw it away! The start of the journey.
  • The hat the hospital put him in – not that it stayed on for 5 mins, big head!
  • The sensors from the tests he had at the NICU that the nurse kindly gave to me.
  • His umbilical cord clip. I drew the line at the actual shrivelled cord and threw that out in disgust!
  • His first size nappy (unused!) even looking back now I cannot believe he was that small!
  • I wish I had managed to get a newspaper the day he was born but I only thought of this a week later and it was too late by then.
  • I saved the Argos catalogue from the season and year he was born (spring/summer 2014) so that when he is older he can look back at what was around when he was born, how old fashioned the people look, how low tech the toys are and LOOK at those phones, they’re huge!
  • His first size nappy (unused!) even looking back now I cannot believe he was that small!
  • His first shoes. Everyone does this right?
  • Any currency that disappears during his lifetime. I’m going to keep a purse filled with it, starting with the old paper £5 note. Otherwise when he’s a bit older he won’t believe that notes were once paper and we all hated the plastic replacements! And now I’m adding an old £1 coin, round and one colour? He will never believe it!

 

Have you kept anything else? I’d love to get more ideas, and I might add them to this list so please let me know!!

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Sunday 28th January 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Parenting, Rainbow Baby, Rainbow Newborn

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Sunday 28th January 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/01/28/memories/

Insemination

Same room as last time.
Same people as last time.
Same procedure as last time.
Hopefully a different result to last time.
Now for the dreaded two week wait.
How long ’til I go insane this time?
I get to test on 3rd February.

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 19th January 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 19th January 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/01/19/insemination/

Trigger

Scan showed that the larger follicle is the perfect 18mm but the smaller one has shrunk back a bit, so no twins, but it only takes one!

Triggering tonight ready for insemination at 12.30 on friday!

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Wednesday 17th January 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Wednesday 17th January 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/01/17/trigger-2/

Trigger Week

The scan today showed the 12mm follicle has grown to 15mm, the other one on the left has vanished and the one on the right has gone from 8mm to 11mm.
Seems my ovaries listened to me and got rid of one!
Hopefully another scan on wednesday will show the left follicle has reached 18mm and we can trigger ready for insemination on friday.
As it happens this is another preplanned week off work… how well timed was that!
Two decent size follicles at the moment – could we be looking at twins?!

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Monday 15th January 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Monday 15th January 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/01/15/trigger-week/

Growth

I had my normal nurse back, and like a lucky charm I have a monster follicle!
It was either hiding the other day or has done some stellar growth in the last couple of days!
On my right ovary I have one follicle measuring at 8mm
On my left I have a 12mm and a 9mm

Now I’m really pleased that three follicles have taken up the challenge, however I really need one of them to disappear now as the clinic will not inseminate if there are more than 2 mature follicles!

Crossing everything that 2 keep growing and ones shrinks back!

Rescan on Monday.

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by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 12th January 2018  •  Permalink
Posted in Fertility Clinic, IUI, IUI Cycle 2, Single Mum, Single Mum By Choice

Posted by TryingToBeAMummy on Friday 12th January 2018

https://tryingtobeamummy.com/2018/01/12/growth/

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